Most people lack self-esteem and self-confidence. Instead of feeling worthy enough and capable of things they want to accomplish in life, they feel anxious and withdrawn. Even though, books on self-confidence and self-help are available to guide you to build up your confidence in any area of your life. So here I’ll give you my top 3 books on building self-confidence and courage.
1. POWER OF SELF-CONFIDENCE BY BRIAN TRACY
The most important law of self-confidence is the Law Of Becoming.
As Brian Tracy said, “We are constantly becoming what we think about most of the times”. So you have to always think about the person you want to become — As if you already are the person you want to become.
And that will rewire your nervous system and you will become a more confident person.
Another way to develop your self-confidence is to set and achieve progressively bigger goals. The key is to start where you are. Start with the most achievable goal right now in front of you. And once you accomplish it – You can go big and you can accomplish bigger goals.
It is like learning to walk, You started to walk one step at a time you develop that confidence in your walking skills – Then you take another step and gain more confidence from it. And over time progressively you keep taking bigger and bigger steps.
And it’s the same with any other endeavor in life.
2. THE CONFIDENCE GAP BY RUSS HARRIS.
Most people are waiting for a feeling of confidence in order to take action. But confidence requires action. The great Nelson Mandela once said, “I had feared but I acted with confidence despite the fear I had” – So even though he was scared he took action and that’s what made him confident.
So let’s talk about how to develop confidence in any area of life.
First, you identify the goals you have in that area, Then you identify the specific actions you need to take which are aligned with your values. You have to be very assured about the values you have. Most importantly you have to accept your feelings or emotions as they are.
Then prepare to take actions in alignment with your values. You shouldn’t do anything that is in alignment with your feelings or emotions. Following these 4 steps, you can develop confidence in any area of life.
3. THE GIFTS OF IMPERFECTION BY BRENÉ BROWN.
If you feel you’re not enough. if you feel that you’re not worthy. if you struggle to own yourself and your own story. if you feel like you want to be someone else if you are seeking perfection as the answer to all your problems if you feel that you are imperfect while everyone else is perfect…
Then definitely this book is for you. This book will give you the answer.
The key to confidence in life is to learn to be ourselves to own ourselves as we are. “Authenticity is the greatest accomplishment in life”. As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “To be yourself in a world that is trying to make you someone else — is the greatest accomplishment”. So stop trying to be someone else – Instead, Own who you really are.
Your ultimate goal in life is to be authentic. And most importantly you shouldn’t look for approval or acceptance. Because when we start to seek approval and somehow, we don’t get it – we think that “Maybe we are not good enough”. These kinds of thoughts are not good for your confidence-developing process.
So, The fundamental here to understand is for building self-confidence “Never trade in your authenticity for approval from others”.
Most people say, “Self-help Books Don’t Work.” But I choose to ignore ’em. I’ve seen measurable and effective results in all areas of my life, physically, emotionally, materially. When you read these books. You’ll understand what self-confidence is really about. And you’ll learn how fast you can build it up.