I am going to share with you the most powerful way to build your self-esteem. But first, let’s talk about what self-esteem is. And let me cover 4 basic principles of self-esteem.
1) IT IS A REPUTATION THAT WE HAVE WITH OURSELVES.
As Nathaniel Branden says, “Of all the judgments we pass in life. None is as important as the one we pass on ourselves’’. So it is our own judgment on ourselves. It’s not about what the people say or how they judge you. It is all about your personal judgment and your own reputation with yourself. That is what Self-esteem is.
2) SELF EFFICACY AND SELF RESPECT.
- Self Efficacy: It means that you have trust in yourself. And you believe that you can handle life. Or you believe that you can make it happen whatever your dream is. And you can face all challenges without giving up. And also, Knowing that you will go after your biggest challenges, and achieve your goals and dreams no matter what.
- Self-Respect: This means that you believe you’re worthy of happiness. You believe you’re valuable. And you believe you have a right to be successful. Also knowing that you’re deserving of your goal, your ambitions, and your desires.
3) IT IS INSIDE YOU.
You don’t get self-esteem from outside things like your money, finances, your possessions, Or the person you’re dating with. Most people spend their whole lives seeking approval from the outside world. And that is a very dangerous way to live your life.
And the reason explained by Nathaniel Branden. He says, “If my aim is to prove I am enough. The project goes on to infinity. Because the battle was already lost, On the day I considered the issue was debatable. If we’re constantly trying to prove to someone that we’re enough. We will never be able to do that because as soon as we start questioning it. We’ve already stopped believing that we are enough.
4) OUR ABILITY TO STAND FOR OUR IDEAS.
As Nathaniel Brennan says, “Genius is about having that courage. And that nerve to stand for your ideas”. So you have to be able to stand for your ideas, your values, and your goals. Whatever it is. So these are the four basic principles of self-esteem.
NOW LET’S TALK ABOUT THE MOST POWERFUL WAY TO BUILD YOUR SELF-ESTEEM.
THE PRACTICE OF SELF RESPONSIBILITY:
What self-responsibility means is that you believe you’re responsible for your choices, actions and your decisions. It’s about knowing that you are responsible for how you use and prioritize your time. You are responsible for your happiness. And you’re responsible for your values and your belief system. Basically, You have to own your reality.
Most people live in a victim Mindset. They believe that things and life is happening to them. They believe that they are affected by life. But you have to develop a mindset that tells you, That you are responsible for your life. that you are at cause in life. You have to believe that “I am the one who is making things happen and controlling my own life”. If you ever face a problem in life you don’t have to absorb with blame or excuses or thinking whose fault it is. You have to look for solutions with responsibility. And that is how you become self-responsible.
And if you think that somehow a miracle will happen in your life. Just because you have suffered long enough. This is the kind of self-deception that will ruin your life. You have to take responsibility for your life. And take responsibility for changing your life. This is how you build your self-esteem by taking responsibility for what happens in your life. And stop blaming others for that. It’s your life and you have to figure out how to manage it.
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The practice of self-responsibility is the idea that Nathaniel Branden talks about in his book “The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem”. Pick an area of your life where you are struggling with. Whether it’s business, finances, dating life. Or whatever it might be. And then ask yourself: “If I take 5% percent more responsibility for that area of life, What would I do” And give yourself different answers and then you’ll see your self-esteem grow in that area. With no doubt, the practice of self-responsibility is the most important and powerful strategy to build self-esteem and taking your life in your own hands.